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Dealing with Self Criticism

You know that one day that you feel lost and confused? I've been there. And I believe many others did too at some points in their lives.

It started with us criticising and overwhelming ourselves with negative thoughts. Then comes the urge of, "arghh, the wold is against me, I'm not worthy, why do I always mess things up etc...etc..".

So, have you been there, done that? I have:).

Well, one of the greatest things to deal with I believe, is not whether I have or haven't achieved my target. But it is dealing with myself when I failed or made mistakes. How to dust the pain off and get back up again with the same (if not stronger) energy and motivation to do it again.

I got to say, not all falls are easy to come back from. Thankfully enough, now I'm starting to believe that no matter what happen I will rise again and again to keep pushing myself into being a better version of me.

In the eyes of who that I do this? Number 1, in the Eyes of The Greatest Creator, Allah SWT. And number 2, is for myself - as with only having myself better, that I get to (as a complementary) appear and serve people around me better.


Self-note: Nak kena baca buku ni tak lama lagi.

It is a journey, unique per each individual. Never should we compare, except between our old to new selves. So the more I grow, the more I find that comparitison with other people is becoming less and less meaningful. 

I guess maybe that's one of the benefits of having the concept of Moral Hijrah* in Islam. And the most common and frequent type we encounter on our daily basis is one within ourselves, our very own souls.

*Hijrah of the soul is a transitional line between the human weakness for sin to a position of security from sin, a state of disobedience to one of obedience (quoted from Dar Al-Ifta).

It always gives me the highest level of satisfaction when in what I do, I can relate it back to what I spirituality trust in which is my religion. Even for those not sharing the same faith as mine, I surely believe that when they get to do something that reinforces their trust in their faith, the satisfaction level is off the charts.

So there they are, my 2 cents and views of how to deal with (negative) self-criticism. How would you deal with yours? What sets of understandings that help you overcome it? Feel free to share it with me. I'll be reading out ;).

For now, I'm signing off. Email me your feedback to if commenting below is not your cup of tea.
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  1. unid22 November 2017 at 00:54

    OMG, ada buku yang sama =)

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    1. Groweni3 December 2017 at 06:48

      Memang buku yg sama lah Unid 😂. I snapped gambar masa visit rumah you.

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